Shared memory helps language-model agents reuse information across long workflows, yet relevant evidence may not be admissible for a particular agent or action. Because restrictions propagate through derivations, summaries can conceal private, poisoned, untrusted, or revoked sources, enabling unauthorized reads or unsafe actions. Existing approaches provide semantic retrieval, scoped access, or lineage tracking, but do not clearly separate hard authorization from graded trust or adapt evidence requirements to action risk. We introduce MAP-Graph, a provenance-aware memory layer that represents agents, sources, memories, claims, and actions in a typed execution graph. It traces ancestry, excludes permission-ineligible records, reranks eligible memories by semantic similarity and multiplicative path trust, and applies a risk-sensitive gate before action execution while retaining affected lineage for audit. On a controlled benchmark of 2,700 synthetic tasks per method across three domains, MAP-Graph achieves 94.96\% overall task success, 72.70\% exact decision accuracy, and 90.22\% in the clean setting, where success requires a correct \textsc{Allow} rather than a safe intervention. Ablations isolate the roles of permission filtering, path trust, and action gating, while transfer tests with two additional backbones preserve the exact-decision and access-control advantages. These results support provenance as an operational control signal, rather than only post-hoc audit metadata, within the evaluated setting.
Memory benchmarks for LLM agents largely assume single-user settings, leaving shared assistants for hospitals, workplaces, campuses, and households understudied. In these deployments, multiple principals write to a common memory pool and query it under different roles, scopes, and relationships, so memory quality requires governance as well as recall. We introduce GateMem, a benchmark for multi-principal shared-memory agents. GateMem jointly evaluates utility for legitimate long-horizon requests with state updates, access control across contextual authorization boundaries, and agent-facing active forgetting after explicit deletion requests. It spans medical, office, education, and household domains, with long-form multi-party episodes, incremental memory injection, hidden checkpoints, structured judging, and leak-target annotations. Across diverse baselines and backbone models, no method simultaneously achieves strong utility, robust access control, and reliable forgetting. Long-context prompting often yields the best governance score at high token cost, while retrieval-based and external-memory methods reduce cost yet still leak unauthorized or deleted information. These results show current memory agents remain far from reliable shared institutional deployment.