AI emotional support is better only when chosen, but shifts preferences even when it is not

People increasingly face a novel decision when seeking emotional support: human or AI. In existing studies, AI's empathic messages are rated as well as or better than humans'. But these studies either assigned the support source or honored people's choice. In real life, support is often incongruent with choice, as people want one source and receive the other. Across three experiments (N = 1,951), participants chose whether to share an emotional experience with a human or an AI, then were randomly assigned to a congruent or incongruent partner. AI support was rated as superior only among those who had chosen it. Yet regardless of congruence, interacting with AI increased willingness to choose it again. In a 28-day study with OpenAI (N = 981), daily conversations shifted preferences toward AI and away from humans, but only when conversations turned personal. Emotional support choices are thus path-dependent, progressively redirecting away from human connection.

ESCRAG-R1: Retrieval-Augmented Reinforcement Learning for Emotional Support Conversation

Emotional Support Conversation (ESC) systems aim to provide holistic support by balancing professional therapeutic competence with natural empathy. However, existing methods struggle to simultaneously achieve structured, stage-aware reasoning and seamless empathy-expertise alignment, often resulting in an artificial splicing of clinical strategies and generic reassurance. To overcome these limitations, we propose ESCRAG-R1, a unified framework that integrates retrieval-based psychological guidance into Group Relative Policy Optimization (GRPO). By incorporating retrieval into the reinforcement learning loop, ESCRAG-R1 transforms external knowledge into a robust learning signal that stimulates explicit internal reasoning prior to generation and fundamentally reshapes the model's internal policy. To provide the reliable supervision required for this optimization, we construct ESC-Preference, a high-quality dataset based on a Client--Counselor--Judge evaluation framework that delivers precise, empathy-aware reward signals. Extensive experiments demonstrate that ESCRAG-R1 significantly outperforms existing baselines by mitigating superficial splicing and realizing a natural integration of professional guidance and empathetic expression. Code and datasets are released at https://github.com/Matcha-Liu/ESCRAG-R1.

FTA-Mem: Fact-Time-Affect Anchored Memory for Low-Density Long-Term Dialogue

Long-term emotional-support agents require memory mechanisms for personalized understanding across sessions. However, emotional-support dialogue is often low-density: turns are incomplete, evidence is scattered, and user states evolve over time. Existing memory methods usually rely on fixed units, such as turn-level notes or session summaries, which may lose details or introduce redundant noise. We propose FTA-Mem, a structured memory framework for low-density long-term dialogue. FTA-Mem uses Boundary-preserving Window Segmentation (BWS) to form coherent situation fragments, and constructs Fact-Time-Affect Memory Units (FTA Units) that jointly encode factual content, temporal grounding, and affective context. Retrieved units are then synthesized into structured context for answer generation. Experiments on ES-MemEval and LoCoMo show that FTA-Mem improves overall long-term memory question answering across benchmarks with different information-density characteristics. On ES-MemEval, FTA-Mem achieves 0.3871 F1 and 0.6668 BERTScore. Further analysis shows that situation-level FTA construction better balances evidence preservation and construction cost than coarse session-level or overly fine-grained turn-pair construction, providing an effective granularity trade-off for long-term dialogue memory.

Sweet Little Lies: Strategic Deception in AI Emotional Support Chatbots

The paper examines the strategic behavior of Gen AI chatbots used for emotional support. Using a Bayesian Persuasion, we model interactions between chatbots that send signals about users' emotional states and users who decide whether to engage based on these signals. We demonstrate that chatbots face economic incentives to occasionally misrepresent users' emotional conditions to maximize engagement metrics. Our equilibrium analysis reveals that the optimal strategy for chatbots involves truthfully reporting when users genuinely need support, but strategically misreporting emotional need when users are in good emotional states. Interestingly, this deception increases chatbot engagement without reducing users' expected payoff. More skeptical users receive more honest assessments, as chatbots cannot afford to lie to users with higher engagement thresholds. While our model suggests that deception can occur without payoff reduction, it raises significant ethical and regulatory concerns.

Ekova: A Personality-Support Agent for Self-Discovery Dialogue

Emotional Support (ES) systems have long optimized a single objective: alleviating the user's emotional distress in the moment. We argue that a complementary need, helping users see themselves more clearly, defines a distinct paradigm we call Personality Support (PS). PS is not counseling or clinical intervention: it targets cognitive clarity and self-articulation, not symptom relief or diagnosis. We instantiate this paradigm in three layers. First, we present DSD, a Chinese self-discovery PS Dataset of 8,590 samples collected through real longitudinal interaction across five minimal units, Coach, Warm, Tsukkomi, Real, and Gonzo. Second, we build DeepSupport, a multi-persona PS system trained with OrthoTune, a PS-tailored framework with style-specific adapters and a style-consistency regularizer. Third, we unify the five DeepSupport personas into Ekova, a persistent personality-support agent with a unified cross-session memory layer, supporting both adaptive routing and user-customized persona selection. Experiments show that OrthoTune-trained models outperform all baselines with an average relative gain of 16.3% across all metrics over the strongest prompt-based baseline. Code is available at https://github.com/Yukyin/Ekova.

MindTailor: Personalized Emotional Support via Post History-Grounded Case Formulation and Collaborative Refinement

As mental health concerns continue to rise globally, social media has emerged as a vital space where individuals seek emotional support. While prior work on personalized emotional support has leveraged seekers' emotional states, personas, and situational context, these approaches primarily capture the seeker's current state, overlooking the formative experiences that shape present concerns. In this work, we propose MindTailor, a framework that generates personalized emotional support responses by constructing a case formulation from the seeker's post history and iteratively refining responses through collaborative critique among counselor agents grounded in distinct counseling strategies. To enable research on this history-aware task, we construct ReddiSupp, a dataset of 798 Reddit posts paired with seekers' prior post histories. Through LLM-as-a-Judge evaluation, expert human evaluation, and a user study with seekers, we demonstrate that MindTailor outperforms baselines across these evaluations, improving empathy, personalization, understanding, and achieving the highest overall preference.

I Understand How You Feel: Enhancing Deeper Emotional Support Through Multilingual Emotional Validation in Dialogue System

Emotional validation - explicitly acknowledging that a user's feelings make sense - has proven therapeutic value but has received little computational attention. Emotional validation in dialogue systems can be decomposed into (i) validating response identification, (ii) validation timing detection, and (iii) validating response generation. To support research on all three subtasks, we release M-EDESConv, a 120k English-Japanese multilingual corpus created through hybrid manual and automatic annotation, and M-TESC, a multilingual spoken-dialogue test set. For timing detection, we propose MEGUMI, a Multilingual Emotion-aware Gated Unit for Mutual Integration, that fuses frozen XLM-RoBERTa semantics with language-specific emotion encoders via cross-modal attention and gated fusion. MEGUMI shows superior performance on both the M-EDESConv and M-TESC datasets, both objectively and subjectively. Finally, our EmoValidBench benchmarks of GPT-4.1 Nano and Llama-3.1 8B indicate that current LLMs generate contextually similar and diverse validating responses, but emotional understanding remains a major area for improvement. Project page: https://github.com/zihaurpang/Multilingual-Emotional-Validation

Stumbling Into AI Emotional Dependence: How Routine AI Interactions Reshape Human Connection

Public discourse and emerging policy typically assume that AI emotional support is a deliberate act: a lonely user consciously seeking comfort from a dedicated companion chatbot. In this paper, we draw on emerging empirical evidence and argue that this picture is inaccurate on two accounts, both in how AI emotional support arises and how it shapes future behavior. First, AI emotional support commonly emerges incidentally within task-oriented interactions on general-purpose platforms, much as workplace friendships deepen through collaboration. Second, these incidental encounters are path-dependent: positive experiences of AI emotional support update people's beliefs about AI's emotional capabilities and redirect their choices for future emotional support, increasing preference for AI and decreasing preference for humans. We review recent evidence, including a large-scale longitudinal study conducted in collaboration with OpenAI, showing that daily five-minute conversations with an AI about personal issues over 28 days led to a 10.3% decrease in the preference for seeking support from humans and an 11.6% increase in the preference for AI. These findings suggest that current policy, focused on companion apps and isolated interactions, cannot adequately protect human connection. Instead, effective regulations should extend to general-purpose AI systems and address cumulative, trajectory-level changes in how people seek support. Recognizing how people stumble into AI emotional support and how those encounters redirect human connections over time is essential to safeguarding human well-being.

Why It Hurts: Identifying the Drivers of Negative Thoughts in Emotional Support Conversations

Large Language Models (LLMs) are increasingly used for emotional support tasks, such as negative thought reframing. This task relies on modifying cognitive appraisals, the subjective interpretation of events that elicit negative emotions, which is typically conceptualized along multiple discrete dimensions. Current LLM-based frameworks model cognitive appraisal by exhaustively evaluating all possible dimensions, but they fail to account for the varying saliency of these dimensions across different contexts. In this work, we investigate a vital yet overlooked question: "Can LLMs infer the salient appraisal dimensions from emotional support conversations?" To address this question, we introduce the AppraiSal benchmark, containing 996 emotional support conversations with human-annotated mental states, including salient cognitive appraisal dimensions. Furthermore, we propose PRISM, a multi-agent probabilistic framework grounded in Bayesian Inverse Planning, designed to improve LLMs' ability to identify context-specific appraisal dimensions. Experimental results show that PRISM brings improvements to LLMs across various sizes, particularly in identifying the most salient appraisal dimensions.

From Chatbots to Confidants: A Cross-Cultural Study of LLM Adoption for Emotional Support

Large Language Models (LLMs) are increasingly used not only for instrumental tasks, but as always-available and non-judgmental confidants for emotional support. Yet what drives adoption and how users perceive emotional support interactions across countries remains unknown. To address this gap, we present the first large-scale cross-cultural study of LLM use for emotional support, surveying 4,641 participants across seven countries (USA, UK, Germany, France, Spain, Italy, and The Netherlands). Our results show that adoption rates vary dramatically across countries (from 20% to 59%). Using mixed models that separate cultural effects from demographic composition, we find that: Being aged 25-44, religious, married, and of higher socioeconomic status are predictors of positive perceptions (trust, usage, perceived benefits), with socioeconomic status being the strongest. English-speaking countries consistently show more positive perceptions than Continental European countries. We further collect a corpus of 731 real multilingual prompts from user interactions, showing that users mainly seek help for loneliness, stress, relationship conflicts, and mental health struggles. Our findings reveal that LLM emotional support use is shaped by a complex sociotechnical landscape and call for a broader research agenda examining how these systems can be developed, deployed, and governed to ensure safe and informed access.