Memory is central to long-horizon LLM agents, yet existing memory systems primarily preserve interaction content rather than modeling which agents can be trusted and under what conditions. This limitation is particularly important in multi-agent systems, where a central model may be unable to directly verify plausible or correlated peer responses. We introduce $Σ$-Mem, an online reliability memory that records historical competence evidence for individual peers and peer relationship evidence across the peer set. Both forms of evidence are maintained as real symmetric states and updated from post-decision correctness feedback. By Weyl's inequality, the spectral change caused by each event-level update is bounded, enabling stable online adaptation without retraining the underlying models. $Σ$-Mem provides a general write-and-read interface: the same memory can be used for residual steering of a central model, response-free peer routing, or reliability-weighted voting. Across five Qwen-family models, $Σ$-Mem adapts to counterfactual reliability shifts and generalizes to unseen peers and task domains. Direct memory readouts also outperform majority voting and the best fixed peer over the full OOD evaluation set. Moreover, performance improves consistently as more correctness feedback becomes available, indicating that $Σ$-Mem progressively accumulates actionable reliability information. These results establish reliability memory as a reusable foundation for adaptive coordination in LLM-based multi-agent systems.
Existing memory-augmented LLM agents store past experience exclusively in prompt space, as textual summaries or retrieved passages, while keeping model parameters frozen throughout a rollout. Such agents can \emph{look up} what they have seen but cannot \emph{learn from} it: their policy is unchanged by experience, and any information dropped from the context is permanently lost. We introduce \texttt{TMEM}, a self-evolving parametric memory framework in which the agent not only compresses history into explicit memory but also absorbs distilled supervision into fast LoRA weights $Δ_t$ via lightweight online updates, genuinely altering its future behavior within a single episode. We formalize this as an agentic decision process with fast-weight rollout dynamics: actions are sampled from $π_{θ_0+Δ_t}$, while extraction actions produce supervision that updates $Δ_t$ for subsequent decisions. This view makes the extraction policy directly optimizable by RL: training $θ_0$ improves not only task actions but also the quality of the data used for online LoRA adaptation. We further propose SVD-based initialization of the LoRA subspace to accelerate online convergence. Experiments on LoCoMo, LongMemEval-S, multi-objective search, and CL-Bench show that \texttt{TMEM} consistently outperforms summary-based and retrieval-based baselines across different model scales.